Emotional Vampires
(I present different versions of this talk for business and general audiences)
Not just annoying people, but darkly seductive. Emotional Vampires draw you in with charm, beauty, talent and pulse pounding excitement. Then they drain you – not of blood but of every last drop of emotional energy.
You know them – Sexy, but unreliable lovers, drama queens who use emotions like Afghan Rebels use Kalishnikovs, jealous spouses, demanding parents, manipulative coworkers, and bosses with gigantic egos, who are so small everywhere else.
It's almost supernatural how quickly Emotional Vampires can get you to trust them, then, just as quickly, get under your skin and drain you dry. It's downright scary how quickly they can trick you into letting them come back and do it again.
Psychologists would diagnose Emotional Vampires with Personality Disorders, those strange mental illnesses drive other people crazy. To protect yourself from children of the night, you must understand what personality disorders are, and how they operate.
With checklists, examples, humor, and detailed, step-by-step instructions, Dr. Albert J. Bernstein, Psychologist and best-selling author will tell you all you need to know to save yourself from a tremendous pain in the neck.
Picture from Vancouver Columbian 9/26/00
Children of the Night
Emotional Vampires see the world differently than other people do. Their perceptions are distorted by their cravings for immature and unattainable goals. They want everybody's complete and exclusive attention. They expect perfect love that gives but never demands anything in return. They want lives filled with fun and excitement, and to have someone else take care of anything that's boring or difficult. Vampires seem like grownups on the outside, but inside, they're still babies. Always remember what they are, because their appearance is always deceiving.
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